You think the friend zone is bad? You don’t want to try the sex zone where you’re nothing but a midnight special to a guy you actually have feelings for.
A man with the audacity to come to your house empty handed because you will still grace him with food of both his stomachs.
Men love sex. Women love sex. But there’s a difference between a man who wants you and a man who only wants to sleep with you and step.
The good news is most of these guys are so predictable you’ll spot the sex-zone trap the minute he says something accompanied by things he will do, just pay attention.
If you choose to play along, just know you cannot fuck your way into his heart all the way into a loving marriage.
A man will enjoy every free ride you offer him while dating three other women on the side. He won’t stop until YOU wise up and cut him off.
He wants all the benefits of a committed wife with zero effort. Even after clarifying you’re looking to build a family. he never wants to know you any further than the bedroom, just a booty calls and booze.
This dude will still have the nerve to repeat that he’s not looking for a “serious relationship” while unzipping his pants and refusing the condom you’re offering.
This one is a love bombing dude. He’ll text you 24/7, and flood your WhatsApp with ‘good morning beautiful when can we hook up” all within 48 hours and with excess love and kiss emojis. But once he tastes the cookies, he ghosts you for 72 hours.
You text “Hey, how’s your day?” He replies “just thinking about that nyash”
You call to chat, he steers the convo into how “hard” he is
This type is not genuinely interested in you , he just wants positions and “sex’ccess.”
For him, dates only happen indoors. His place. Your place. Or a house party where he can conveniently smash and dash away. You’ll never sit in a restaurant, share a fun outdoor activity, or even a simple coffee shop. Because guess what? He’s not THAT into you.
Like a magician, he’s all about peek-a-boo. One week he’s texting you nonstop, trying to slide into your bed. Then suddenly goes silent for two months. Then pops up out of nowhere, acting like nothing happened. And yes, he still wants sex the minute you close the door behind you.
If he’s never bothered to ask your second name, or where your village is, why do you think he wants to build something real?
This man doesn’t even want to fake interest. And if you ask him what he does for work? he goes Crickets. Because he doesn’t think you should care, and neither should you.
He avoids holding hands, hugging, or even letting you borrow his jacket when it’s cold. This is because affection isn’t his goal. A man who truly likes you will keep you close. This one will not allow you to kiss him just because you want to.
He told you he’s not into relationships.
He told you he’s only looking for fun.
And yet, here you are, hoping your anxious cookie will change his mind.
The moment a man tells you he only wants friends-with-benefits, take it as a formal rejection letter.
If a guy is all over you on Saturday night but missing-in-action the rest of the week, you’re merely his backup plan.
Sis, usibant, check his socials, he’s online all day posting memes and love reacting all the everyone’s pictures, but hasn’t texted you back? How about you respect yourself?
If his idea of a “date” is getting high and vibing at your place, just know he isn’t seeing a future with you. He sees a convenient hookup, and a convenient house where he can eat , get sex, bath and fart at no cost nor effort.
Sex is great when it’s with the right person.
Now imagine this:
You don’t know his real name.
You don’t know his friends. Probably never been to his house.
You don’t even know if the bed you’re lying on is actually his.
And after he drops you home or leaves your house, you just have this sad, regretful feeling.
Sis, do better for YOU.
Sex is an investment, spend it on someone loyal and honest.
Because if it ever ends, at least you’ll look back and say, “That was worth every minute!.” just incase you get syphilis…