“DL” means down-low. DLs are men who hide their attraction to other men from you as their partner, their family and their close circle. They usually present themselves as straight in public to blend in and avoid negative reactions, particularly from loved ones and family members.
Here are some warning signs to look out for:
1. Shows excessive hostility and low-key hate toward you and other women.
2. Has a sick! and high number of sexual partners.
3. He openly dislikes your breasts and coochie; he critiques their huge size and prefers anal intimacy.
4. Constantly mentions how a particular gay man keeps contacting him, and how he can never be interested.
5. Frequently exposes his underwear with his ass all out in the name of sagging.
6. Makes comparisons between his body attractiveness and adult film performers, like, “is my kasusu as huge as this?”
7. His browsing history is filled with adult content, including and especially gay material.
8. Claims to be bisexual in public social media comments he assumes you will never see.
9. His social media connections consist mainly of LGBTQ members and suchlike DL celebrities.
10. Gets excited about male groups, men-only gatherings, and guys’ nights, that you’ll never see photos of.
11. He secretly uses dating apps like Grindr, Disco, Scruff, and will be in gay chat groups. To test this just play a Grindr notification to see his reaction.
12. You’ve been getting frequent and endless sexually transmitted infections that won’t go even after treatment.
13. You suddenly notice streaks of pupu on his undergarments.
14. He suddenly starts to have manicure with clear nail polish, salon visits, new perfume and lip balm, you’ve never seen before.
15. Shows clear dislike toward his female relatives or friends like mother, former partner, and even his female children. But abnormal love for the young adult males.
16. You never know where his income goes because it doesn’t help your home.
The Bottomline:
They may be gay from the beginning or even join after you’ve lived together for several years, but they will always have seven or more signs to give them away.
Remember that these are just warning signals or red flags not concrete evidence.
But! Girl, listen to your gut feelings and have those scary conversations with him to safeguard both your emotional well-being, general health and especially your reproductive health.
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