How to Avoid Becoming Prey While Dating in Nairobi
When you start dating someone new, you may encounter predatory individuals before meeting genuine people.
These predators might waste your time, steal your belongings, introduce you to drugs, exploit you, or potentially cause harm. It’s crucial to keep this in mind whenever you plan to meet a stranger.
Be cautious for your own safety, because you don’t want to spend years in therapy dealing with trauma because of one bad experience.
Avoid entering their home on the first date
Going into a stranger’s house for a first date is a risky move. Instead, opt for a public place like a coffee shop. This setting allows for comfortable conversation and getting to know each other without feeling trapped or unsafe.
Do not invite him to your house
You might think that inviting a man into your house instead of going into his house will be better for you, but you’re wrong. Having a man you barely know in your house is as dangerous; he can easily harm you.
Do not meet in hotel rooms
We’ve seen results of women who met partners on dating apps, then met in Airbnb’s where these naive women have been harmed and killed.
Avoid adding to the statistics by not meeting strangers in hotel rooms and other forms of lodging.
Don’t take his compliments like they’re surprises
A man will test your self esteem and when you are afraid of taking compliments like you deserve them, he will know you’re not confident and will use that information to his advantage.
Don’t let him get away with insults or body shaming in the name of a joke
People, including friends and strangers, will insult you and cover it up with an emoji, a silly laugh, and a joke. These people are testing your boundaries, and once they notice you have none, that’s a doorway to get taken advantage of.
Don’t wear uncomfortable clothes or shoes to impress him
Don’t go looking for skimpy clothing or high heels you can’t walk in just to impress a man you don’t know well. Be comfortable enough to be in the right mind frame on a first date or even the fifth one.
Don’t go on and on about your past relationships
Don’t tell tales about your EX, nobody wants to hear how they cheated on you. Get over it. New relationships require a new foundation. Talking too much about the old relationship – when no one asked you, causes a new catch to treat you the same way you lamented about.
Don’t give ammunition to destroy you.
Be yourself!
Don’t fake your personality to fit what you think your date will like. Be genuine by being yourself, don’t fake accents, don’t fake a style either.
Don’t let your date feel that you scammed them later on.
At the end of the day, dating in Nairobi requires a mix of intuition, lots of caution, and self respect.
While there are plenty of great men out there looking for genuine relationships, there are also those looking to take advantage of you and many other unsuspecting and naive women who are out here genuinely thinking everyone is a good person.
The key is to move smart, never be desperate, set clear boundaries, and never ignore those red flags from the beginning.
Just because someone is in a suit doesn’t mean they are safe to be with. Trust your gut, keep your circle or family informed, with a live pin location.
… and Hey, you are the prize, please don’t act desperate.
The minute you feel disrespected, L.E.A.V.E.